Christmas. The most magical time of the year, right? But what if it’s not. What if it’s the hardest time of the year? What if when everyone else is cozying up with their families or getting together with friends and all you want to do is curl up into a ball and wish for it all to be over?
There’s such a lot of pressure to be jolly and festive this time of year, but for some people this just isn’t the case. Some people have suffered great loss and can’t bear to celebrate, some people don’t have the means to financially support the big Christmas we think it should be, or perhaps for religious reasons Christmas isn’t celebrated. I am so fortunate that I have a happy home and I look forward to sharing Christmas each year with my family, but I am very aware that this is a privileged position to be in and I never take it for granted.
It’s absolutely impossible to hide from the constant reminders that Christmas is on its way. Television adverts evoking how we are meant to feel, who we are meant to spend it with, even what we are meant to eat! All of this could seem like a daunting prospect but if you take away the pressure and redesign your own Christmas how you want it to be it could help create positivity around it. Whether that be going to a soup kitchen to help others who are not as fortunate, taking a trip somewhere you’ve not been before, maybe volunteering at a care home or going out on a long walk. Create your own rituals to suit your situation. Break down the barriers of what society expects Christmas to be and create a day for you to love and look forward to, even if that means not celebrating it at all.
If you are struggling this year with Christmas the most important thing you should do is reach out – share your feelings, you might find you are not alone in having those feelings, and that you can help each other by opening up about any difficulties you might have during the festive period.
I wanted to share with you this video Channel Mum have created, I think it’s such an important thing to watch because so many people struggle this time of year and it’s really important to recognise that. I hope if you are struggling with coping this Christmas it can help. Remember, reach out and ask for support if you need it. Thanks for reading.